For the longest time, Akira have been trying to have me settle down instead of wasting my money on rent and whatnots. But me being me (and a typical Sagittarius), I admit to having cold feet whenever he does that – the more he asks, the more I resist. Despite wanting to get married all my life, the thought of having to settle down with someone for good when I just got my freedom is a terrifying thought that I was unable to put to ease. Yet life always have its way of eventually showing you the right path, and through all the hurdles in 2015, I doubt I could ever find someone who loves me and cares for me as much as he does. So one fine day, I just sprung it on him: I’m ready, let’s do this! And he was like “Are you serious? Please don’t let it be one of your fickle-minded decisions”… 😡 I also broke the news to my parents by randomly telling my mom that I’m looking for a wedding venue over the phone. She hid her initial excitement well (typical Asian mom, really!) but my dad, who have been worried that I will be left on the shelf for the longest time, didn’t; I think that was the easiest and quickest one liner my mom ever had to say to get his immediate attention: your daughter is getting married. Phone down and all ears! LOL. Sorry to disappoint but nope, no fanciful/surprise proposal to gush about.
For someone who have tortured le fats for nearly a decade, even I surprised myself for letting him off so easy for our wedding. I suppose I am one of the bo-chup brides out there who likes to leave her full trust and faith on the good people she is working with – this could easily go wrong, mind you, but that’s the perk of a small wedding. Fuss-free and much more flexible! So the initial plan was: no proposal, no engagement ring, no dowry (just an ang pao as a form of respect), no gate crash, no emcee, no videography.. I have thought long and hard about these and to be honest, I just don’t care for them. In the end, all these are just marketing gimmick with loads of money spent to impress others that don’t even care much about. What for? Can you imagine the amount of time, efforts and moolahs we can save?!
Before I know it, we got our dream location settled within 2 weeks of my decision and basically drafted a rough expectation of the wedding within a month whilst communicating with several sponsors in mind. I am also very blessed to have my parents being uber supportive throughout the entire process. I only wanted one luncheon in Singapore initially (which will not be revealed anytime soon) but as mom wants to invite her relatives and friends, we agreed to hold a second one in Malaysia. The venue was picked without a second thought: Pulai Springs Country Club & Resort. I have no idea what have I done in my past life but I seemed to be so strongly affiliated to this place: my sister’s first kindergarten performance, grew up spending our weekends at the pool and studying at the library, my 21st birthday, my parent’s 15th anniversary and now, my wedding -.-
Do note that I wouldn’t be covering much of planning my JB wedding here as my mom is mainly in charge of it, will just blog about snippets of key points for those who are considering of sourcing from JB or holding a wedding there. You see, my parents never had a wedding back then.. it was just a solemnization with a few peeps present and that’s it. Obviously, the apple didn’t fall far from the tree but I didn’t want any regrets, so I choose to have one anyway. And now, it feels like mommy is making up for lost time by being so actively involved, I’m super touched. With her superb grapevine abilities, she was able to source for various contacts from bridal gowns all the way down to a wedding band, photobooth and whatnot; and all I had to do is to say yes or no. I have one hippy mama!
In fact, my initial plan was to only announce my entire wedding process AFTER it’s all done and over with, but the lovely marketing ladies from Prive advised that it will be such a pity to not openly document the entire process.. so here we are. Anyway, the reason of not wanting to announce beforehand is simple: Do something first then talk about it afterwards. I don’t believe in blabbering on and on and on about something my impatient self can’t stand for, and well, partly also because I want to keep a certain long-time stalker and yaogui’s greediness at arm’s length. Heh.
I have been secretly documenting this journey throughout these 6 months, constantly updating and amending my posts.. so you can only imagine my excitement to finally share with my kitties on what’s going to be the biggest and most expensive chapter of my life, 4 more months to the big day..